#284: Your Comfort Might Be Killing You


comfort killing you

Are you comfortable? If your answer was yes, I want you to pay close attention to the program today. We’re going to challenge you to really look at your life, potential, and progress.

If your answer is no, do you have any idea why you’re uncomfortable, or how to navigate through it? We’re going to challenge you to really look at your life, potential, and progress.

Today I’m going to challenge you to really look at your life, potential, and progress.

If you’re ready to take your life, your leadership, your business, and your influence to another level,  you’re in the right place.

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Feature Presentation: 

Sam Chand’s Formula:

Growth = Change
Change = Loss
Loss = Pain
Growth = Pain

  • In order to GROW, one must be willing to change.
  • In order to change, one must be willing to let go of some things that are no longer serving them
  • Loss is painful.
  • We do not like pain.
  • We also do not like being stretched.
    • Why?
      • Stretching creates pressure
      • Pressure creates stress
      • Stress causes us to worry or question
      • Worry and fear paralyze us
  • We prefer comfort; peace; safety; the familiar.

We talk about comfort zones, so what are they?

  • A comfort zone is a limited area of perception and association wherein the individual or group can function effectively without experiencing uneasiness or fear; a limited defined physical or psychological area in which a person feels at ease; self-regulating mechanism; anxiety arousal control.
  • In my terms, a comfort zone is an invisible bubble we create for ourselves for one of several reasons; we feel safe; we feel we belong there; we feel we deserve to be there, etc.

“Discomfort brings engagement and change. Discomfort means you’re doing something that others were unlikely to do, because they’re hiding out in the comfortable zone. When your uncomfortable actions lead to success, the organization rewards you and brings you back for more.” – Seth Godin

Creating a New Normal

  • The only way to create a new normal is to challenge the old one
  • RE-SET the thermostat (or regulator) [your beliefs]
  • RAISE the standard to which you will regulate
  • Dismantle the comfort zones by intentionally addressing those beliefs, mindsets, and fears holding you in place
  • Redefine what NORMAL is by first creating an out of order state in relation to what has been normal
  • CHALLENGE the regulator, and create a new target


Therefore, if you want more opportunity, more business, more influence, more money, or just MORE OUT OF LIFE …

You must break free from the COMFORT trap!

  • It is killing your dreams
  • It is killing your hope
  • It is killing your joy
  • It is killing your motivation and drive
  • It is killing your potential
  • It is robbing you of results and outcomes you are more than capable of realizing

Your COMFORT is killing you!

Influencer’s Challenge:

  • Ask yourself (and honestly answer – in writing!) these questions:
    • What are my comfort zones?
    • Which ones are keeping me safe?
    • Which ones are holding me back?
    • Which comfort zone areas do I need to expand in order to arrive at the fulfillment of what God has said concerning my life?
    • What mindsets or beliefs must be addressed to accomplish this?
  • Identify faulty and limiting mindsets
  • Move from passivity to intentionality as it relates to your thoughts and outcomes
  • Control self-talk
  • Create summarized affirmation statements to replace limiting beliefs

 Next Steps:

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Until next time, remember … You were made in His image, designed for a purpose, and are destined for greatness. The world is waiting for the REAL YOU to show up.  God Bless!